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Sunday Snippet: There is a Plank in My Eye….

August 9th, 2011 · 16 Comments

How many times do folk stop me and say: “Those aren’t all yours are they?” But really they are all mine… And that is very closely followed by how busy I must be… And they are so right I am busy, full time busy!!! The amount of work required to raise eight wonderfully creative kids is incredible… Let’s be honest: Just the laundry is incredible. But in a GOOD way!!! I have a feeling the amount of work raising one child is quite as much as raising a handful, or more than a handful because mothers do put all their hearts into it. And I know that this sounds totally idealistic, but hear me out…

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One of the most surprising things for me, when I became a parent, was just how very much you love your own kids and like most people I thought I would never love another as I loved my first. Surprise: Your love just grows. And I have had people stop me and say “How could you love them all.” Seriously, folks stop me and ask me that!!! The answer is always the same: “Easy, your love just grows.”

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Now, for all the love I have for my kids I was never quite prepared for another parenting surprise and that is all the faults I see in them quite as much as I do, as they get older!!! I never thought that my kids would disobey quite as much as they do or be as unmotivated to work hard at projects or chores quite as much as they do, that they would make getting into the car a matter of negotiation of international proportion. Something as simple as just sitting in church on the pew, without saying in a stage whisper “Is it finished YET? She’s got a pink button on her dress, my dress doesn’t have a pink button,” followed by a flay of misery under the pew just out of reach!!! Grab your seats, because I had a vision that my children would leap to serve with all their strength on a daily basis. In fact I thought my children would be perfect. They are a gift from the Lord after all.

Psalm 127:3 3 Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him.

Turns out they are perfect, they have their faults of course, but the main reason why I am so very good at noticing their faults is that I am so very good at pretending that I have none. Turns out my mothering uniform isn’t always quite starched and sometimes there are quite a few cracks in it. How often do I moan that they aren’t ready for school in the morning when I have gotten up late, how often does school drag into the afternoon because I have been distracted. How often have they not gotten round to their chores because I have said: “Let’s just read another chapter.” Turns out my children have so many more faults when I have been to bed too late, or I haven’t remembered to have a snack. I shouldn’t be amazed, I really know it and just don’t care to admit that my grumpy attitude doesn’t make their behavior worse but it does make mine intolerable!!!

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Now that my kids are getting older and I am realizing just how fast this whole “raising kids time” in our life really does pass, I have been wondering what my kids will remember best about their mom, and while I was a little nervous to interview them it did occur to me that for all the fun and effort that I do make, they may well remember me telling them to tidy their room for school in the morning better than they remember buckets of play-do and endless stories.

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Turns out these wonderfully crazy children are my gift from the Lord, for a time, because I need extra-special training and refining. Clearly I need more refining than most, and their imperfections are my training ground. It is one thing to say your kids are a gift from the Lord and quite another to act it out. Lets face it actions really do speak so much louder than words. Just lately I have been making the effort to lecture less and act more. Yes I can lecture better than all of you, I can go on and on and on about anything!!! Luckily my kids are articulate enough to mention that I may be going on… somewhat!! I can also be really skilled as the “grand martyr of motherhood” and let me say it again, actions speak louder than words… no wonder my children aren’t always leaping to serve!!!

Turns out Matthew 7:3-5 was written just for me…

Matthew 7:3-5: 3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

I have a feeling the best way for them to have a pile of happy memories may well be for me to stop looking for the sawdust in their eyes and start working on the plank in my own. And while my kids grow up living and learning and exploring each day it is my fervent prayer that I will leave them with happy memories and a heart to serve the Lord with all their strength. So while I pray for their future, and their jobs one day and their future families, I also pray for their past and their memories that they might know that, while I tripped and splattered through a forest along the way, I really did love them with all my heart and that they remember the good times we had together.

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16 responses so far ↓

  • 1 KT // Aug 9, 2011 at 10:52 am

    LOL I got to the end of that very long (and true) post thinking oh my! Se7en has suddenly turned to N1NE! But alas no such announcement. :o)

  • 2 Katherine A // Aug 9, 2011 at 5:03 pm

    Hi. Thank you so much for this. I only have 5, and I thought mine were the only ones that behaved like that – especially compared to everyone else. But yes, me too..staying up late to do one last thing, just check e-mails again or finish a great book, doesn’t make for the best homeschooling. When we start back in September I will have to remember to hold onto your post and those words of Matthew.
    And one for you, I have discovered a great author, and I am hooked on her books (they are great adult fiction, with God at the centre – she is called Jeanette Windle). Political fiction, I have learnt so much about the jungle, and the DEA in the US that I knew nothing of.

  • 3 Taryn // Aug 9, 2011 at 6:49 pm

    Love this post! My new favourite 🙂 thx for yr honesty?

  • 4 Tammy mayes // Aug 9, 2011 at 7:11 pm

    Here here!!!! After a REALLY emotionally trying and worrying week about my kids, your post is really an answer to my prayer and a word for me!! Thank you.

  • 5 se7en // Aug 10, 2011 at 12:02 am

    Sorry to disappoint you KT!!! That is so funny!!! Hope you have a fun week!!!

  • 6 se7en // Aug 10, 2011 at 12:08 am

    Hay Katherine, Good to hear form you… I have a feeling that we so want our kids to be perfect that we see them as far worse than they really are!!! Other folks are always saying how good our kids are, and I am always thinking – ummm no!!! I think we judge our own kids with a much higher bar than we expect from other other folks kids!!! And really it is my self-discipline that needs to be called into check!!! And thanks for the author tip I will definitely be looking out for her!!! Have a fabulous week!!!

  • 7 se7en // Aug 10, 2011 at 12:14 am

    Hi Taryn, So glad that I can still make “new favorite posts” for you!!! Hope you have a great week, enjoy the sunshine!!!

  • 8 se7en // Aug 10, 2011 at 12:19 am

    Oh Tammy, I know I don’t always want to hear that it is me that turns things upside down, but I do – all the time!!! I pray your week gets better and better!!! Lots of love!!!

  • 9 Stephanie // Aug 10, 2011 at 6:08 pm

    Yup. Amazing how that works, isn’t it??
    When we’re feeling good, there is nothing we don’t have an understanding and patience for … it just is what it is, and is no big deal!
    And then when we’re grumpy… oof. 🙂

    Great post! 🙂

  • 10 Kim Allen // Aug 10, 2011 at 9:17 pm

    oh my goodness….so I am not alone 😉 I find myself having such high expectations of my children…almost as if they are an extension of me and if they are displaying less than perfect behaviour then somehow I am failing at the task God has given me. It such a warped perspective isnt it?! After all, we can’t change our kids anymore than we can change our husbands but we certainly can ask God to start with us first. mmmm….great post…Very encouraging! Thank you se7en 😉

  • 11 se7en // Aug 10, 2011 at 11:10 pm

    Hay Stephanie, tell me about the “oof”!!! I guess there are always good days and bad days!!! Hope you have a great one!!!

  • 12 se7en // Aug 10, 2011 at 11:19 pm

    Hi Kim, Great comment!!! We do have high expectations… we cannot change who they are… but we can pray!!! I think it is like that for most moms… all those high hopes packed into our kids!!! Meanwhile, I hope you have a great week!!!

  • 13 sherrin // Aug 13, 2011 at 1:50 pm

    Thanks for your openness in sharing this lesson with us. I read “Loving the Little Years” and one quote stuck with me where the author stated that we cannot be greedy with our time and expect our children to share their toys. I needed that reminder, along the same lines as what you are sharing about first looking at your own attitude.

  • 14 se7en // Aug 14, 2011 at 2:17 am

    Hi Sherrin, Good to hear from you… That is such a good quote, thank you for sharing it!!! And how very true… I hope you are having a good weekend with your cute kids!!!

  • 15 Cheryl // Aug 16, 2011 at 1:53 am

    Oh so true. I know my mood, reflects on my children. Nice reminder. Have to smile at the pink button situation. I think we’ve all been there as mothers.

  • 16 se7en // Aug 17, 2011 at 1:45 am

    Hay Cheryl, It is good to have you back… and as for pink buttons: It is always the little things that are the MOST important!!! Hope you are having a good week!!!

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