I have to ask “Why is it that mothers feel like they say NO all day long?” We are well into our summer holidays and doing a whole lot of nothing and I am finding it so easy to be a “Yes Mom.” Yes to spontaneous science experiments, yes to another story, yes to more dressing up and face paints, yes to friends coming over anytime, just a whole lot of “yeses.” But I tell you the truth a month ago, as I finished up our last week or two of school at the end of what felt like a long year, I was anything but a “Yes Mom.”
Here are Se7en excuses we all use for saying No:
- We don’t want a mess: Honestly I don’t mind the mess, I even have spots designed into our home that are perfect for messes. So if someone needs to paint then they must. If they want to concoct a delicious mixture then there is no reasonable reason not to.
- We can do the job a whole lot easier and quicker: This is true, but I love enabling my kids and teaching them new skills, it takes a bit longer at first but then they generally fly with it and enjoy it. Hood #1 has just mastered the bread machine and I can leave lunch to him – everyday!
- We don’t want to make the effort: Actually I love making the effort, I am good at efforts… I can build a fort before breakfast, I can play that board game again and again… and again! I can take my kids for a walk on the beach whatever the weather…
- We are just too tired: I am a master napper, if a child is too tired to carry on then I send them for a nap… I expect the same from me!!! So “I am just too tired” is not a very good excuse around here.
- We worry about what other people think: I have never bothered too much about what other people think… I really don’t mind if they think my children are too noisy when they are launching themselves across the park field, and I really couldn’t worry if the people in the next checkout hear what my kids think about large retail marketing tactics. Really if I was too concerned about what other people thought I probably wouldn’t have had eight kids!!!
- We don’t want to share: I really don’t mind my kids going trough the stationary drawers. Really does it matter if I need to grab some more selo-tape or another ball of string next time we are at the store. My markers have become their markers, really saying “I don’t want to share” is quite ridiculous.
- We haven’t got time: Actually, I have got time and lots of it to spend with my kids. I like my kids, I want to spend time with them. And really how long does one more story take? And a bubble bath at bed-time doesn’t take that much longer than a shower.
Obviously these are all poor excuses for saying no… I think the ultimate reason for not always being a “Yes Mom” is that I have one bad habit: “I just say no, because I say so.” Awful isn’t it!!! I have got just one bad habit that I would really like to change permanently. Not just when we are relaxed and on summer vacation, but when we are in the depths of the school term as well!!!
This Post is part of The Thirty Minute Mom’s Challenge at Steady Mom.