There are so many things to remember about labor and birth and pregnancy that I always quite forget that there are a whole lot of surprises waiting for me with a new baby!!! The first time round the whole focus is on the birth and getting the birth you are after… that I never really thought too much about living with a newborn. Now for the eighth time I should be an old hand at living with a newborn. But, and here’s the thing, for mothers who are doing this for the eighth time there were a whole lot of surprises too…
When it comes to teeny tiny newborns:
- I always forget: How quickly “newborn passes” and how all that scrunchedness passes. Not to mention how totally and madly you love them.
- I always forget: That there are no tears yet for their misery…and how geared we are to resolving it as fast as possible regardless of everything else in the world. Just don’t come between a mom and her crying newborn – Don’t!!!
- I always forget: How a newborn nurser requires both hands and intense concentration to get fed – no matter how skilled you are at nursing they need to master the skill too.
- I always forget: Those little paper thin nails need to be snipped almost immediately because otherwise your newborn will look like it has been in a cat fight. Not to mention that all those little fingers grabbing you to nurse may well lessen the joyful experience as you feel you are being pierced by a million needles: baby-led acupuncture may well not be the key to new born parenting.
- I always forget: That first baby poo, until I see it… It is black like tar and copious. The only way to move it on, so to speak, is to nurse away!!! That first “milk” gets their little tummies into gear and after a couple of days their poo looks like this – the copiousness doesn’t change, just the color and consistency changes!
- I always forget: I have never had a newborn that loves a bath, they hate being naked and really a two second woosh through the water is enough. The reason for making the great effort of the bath is that it tends to be very soporific!!!
- I always forget: How opinionated these little creatures are. And why shouldn’t they be!!! All of them have entirely their own combination of likes and dislikes. And this is what works for Hood #8:
- He just can’t tolerate a hat.
- He hates his feet uncovered even in the two seconds that it takes to change his diaper.
- He loves listening to his brother’s trumpeting (it was just the other side of my skin before why wouldn’t he!).
- He loves a breeze through his hair, but hates the wind.
- He needs his hands tucked out of the way to nurse but likes them free to sleep.
- He doesn’t like being passed around with strangers, but then what baby does!
- Most of mine have shown no interest in toys but he already knows his owl is well worth peering at!
And then there are at least Se7en things I forget about myself:
- Did I mention: How madly in love with this “little newborness” I always am, which means that for the first couple of days I barley sleep a wink because I have to just peer at them and absorb them.
- Did I mention: That the first two or three days after the birth my body feels like it has been hit by a train, I always forget this!!! My body after a marathon feels nothing like as fatigued and tired!!! Sitting in one spot just makes you stiffer, it helps to move around – slightly!
- Did I mention: “Afterpains” I always forget about these until it is way too late!!! These “contractions” are easily as bad as labor and if you have a caregiver that has never had children they cannot possibly understand that!!! As your body springs back to “normal” in a couple of days after spending nine months growing to this size, it hurts!!! Especially when you are nursing your newborn… and this is the hardest part of visitors when you have a newborn… grimacing your way through a visit is not what the world is expecting from a new mother.
- Did I mention: That all that fluid that collects in your body for nine months has to go somewhere and you will spend the first couple of days dashing to the loo. This is a good thing, think of it as a quick weight loss plan. Not to mention you will be able to see your ankles really soon!!!
- Did I mention: That absolutely no clothes in your closet will fit… not a single thing. Maternity clothes fall off and pre-pregnancy clothes don’t cover all the gaps yet!!! At the moment I am roaming around in the father person’s shorts – they fit and nothing else does!!!
- Did I mention: How many hours in every day are spent caring for a newborn… not as many as you might think, they nurse and you change them but that doesn’t take all day. It is the holding them takes all day and frankly you have to – they like it and need to be held, you like it and need to hold them. The only way to survive and to get the rest you need is to hold your baby because when they sleep you will most likely have a nap with them – trust me this works!!!
- Did I mention: How amazed I am – every time – that this baby actually fitted within me – even all wrapped up I just can’t figure it out!!! And even though you are no longer pregnant you still have a billowing belly, all squishy and well not very appealing! But wait you will be rewarded because you should be able to see your feet soonish… and better than that you should be able to tie you laces a lot more comfortably within the week!!!
That’s it a bit of post pregnancy fun!!!
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