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Sunday Snippet: Best Relationship Books Ever By Shaunti Feldhahn

February 16th, 2009 · 7 Comments

This week I have something for everyone…

First things first here is a cute and hearty word search, with all the words from 1 corinthians 13:4-8. I got the word search from The Kids Sunday School site, which is a great resource for all things Sunday School.

And now a Review: For Men Only and For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.

If you follow this blog you will know that I am totally awful at birthday gifts for the father person. Not to mention Valentine Gifts – socks for crying out loud!

Anyway one year in absolute desperation – last minute on the day standing in a closing book shop with about five small children – I had to get something. So I grabbed these, honestly they appealed to me and I kind of hoped he would like them too. And I know the covers are a bit insipid for a manly man to venture into them. You know the kind of man that loves to read relationship books – not at all.



Anyway, I dashed home and read them both – a chunk of bread for supper, I couldn’t put them down. They are so brilliant, first I read For Women Only – it’s all about how men think… Couldn’t believe a word I’d read!!! So, without pause, I went on to read the For Men Only – all about how women think, well it was spot on… time and time again. Here is a book that knows how women think and how women feel and what’s more how men can translate that, interpret it and use it. So I ever so tactfully started asking if he felt like this and like that about a couple of things in the first book – he looked at me like I was mad and said: “That’s how all men feel.” And I casually picked up my jaw off the ground and said” “Oh!” and reread the book with a whole lot more attention!!!

Meanwhile, birthdays aside, I really wanted the father person to know how I think about things so I dashed to and got the audible versions – popped them on his ipod for driving in the traffic! Problem solved.

So, I asked him what he liked about these books: “They are not touchy-feely-airy-fairy relationship books.” She collected her data from 1000’s of interviews and results of surveys with real men and women – so it’s not even her opinion. The information is presented as fact (survey results) and therefore so manageable for a guy.

After years of thinking we were fairly good communicators we discovered words that we use that are the same – spelt the same, look the same, are not the same. A man’s idea of security, for example, compared to a woman’s idea of security are so distinct that you are not even vaguely comparable. So much for communicating!!!

Anyway these books are not the definitive guide to a good marriage but they are packed with ideas that can only help you have a better marriage. Apart form that they are a jolly good read, quick, light and to the point.

So we love these books and highly recommend them if for no other reason that you will get a whole collection of new things to talk about together.

And lets try not to forget our Bible Verse of the Week Project, here is the seventh verse:

Bible verse of the week: from the Bible Gateway

Romans 11:36

36 For from him and through him and to him are all things.

To him be the glory forever! Amen.

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  • 1 Taryn // Feb 17, 2009 at 9:03 am

    Right on! Loved the book too; also had to pick up my jaw off the floor. The whole "visual" thing only fully sunk home for me after reading this book. I got our father person the For Men Only as part of an anniversary gift, but sadly, it’s cover has yet to be cracked! 😉 How to be a better whatever books scare him!

  • 2 se7en // Feb 17, 2009 at 1:02 pm

    Hi T, What about: Reading it “for him” and make sure you only read it when he is around, with lots of … “I read this amazing thing I would like to share with you.” Then read a section and leave him to absorb, rather than commenting, since the book does that for us! Often the direct approach works – this is not a time to be subtle!!! This is why I resorted to the audiobook and frankly the father person is very glad I made the effort.

  • 3 gretchen from lifenut // Feb 17, 2009 at 7:46 pm

    The marriage ministry at our church used these books during one of the sessions. Such great insight!

  • 4 se7en // Feb 17, 2009 at 11:12 pm

    Hi there, These books really are in insight aren’t they!!! I am so glad you popped by our blog, and I love the photo’s of your little guy!

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