I am all for New Beginnings, the smell of a New Book, opening a fresh pack of crayons – hmmmmm. And, oh wow, the beginning of a school year with fresh books and new pencil case.
But there is a certain madness at this time of year as we spin out of the hectic time of Christmas to resolve to be better, to do more, to try harder, to aim higher. The lists of things we should have done from last year that hasn’t been touched since mid-January. So while we feel like we are starting on the back foot we add a whole new list of things we need to do this year. Talk about about pouring on the pressure.
We live in a crazy scheduled world and then we decide on good resolutions that will improve our lives. While there is a time for everything, a time to plot and plan and a time to just be. Generally the places where we try and self-improve the most are the areas that we feel we fail in the most. In fact, we are taking a very close look at the things we are getting so wrong and there in lies the problem. The culture of self-improvement is really a culture of looking at all the things we are getting wrong. There is nothing wrong with having a look at areas where we are failing but…
This is a typical case of not practicing what we preach – we are always motivating our kids by saying how great they are. And then we knock ourselves down and say: “Improve. Improve.” How many articles have been written about how stressed our kids are, how much they have to achieve. Well it’s genetic they get it from their parents – look at the lists we make of things to achieve in the next year. It is daunting, ridiculous even!!!
Maybe New Year wouldn’t be so gloomy, depressing even, if instead of focusing on all the things we are not doing, all things we haven’t achieved and looked at the things we are doing right and focusing on more of the same…
So I am intending to do more of the same this year, more hours doing “nothing.” Carefully scheduled and planned days of nothing. Time to fill with whatever arises. Time to wonder, time to dream, time to think. Time to play a game, time to read a book, time to try new things… whatever comes up. I don’t have a schedule, whatever happens. Indeed, “the more of the same” I am intending to do is nothing. Giving my kids “time to do nothing” is something I can do… without adding more pressure and more stress and more scheduling to our lives.
Have a look at the “More of the Same” you can be doing this year… think about it… You may not need quite as much self-improvement as you thought you did!!!
This Post is part of The Thirty Minute Mom’s Challenge at Steady Mom.