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Se7en Reasons Why Children Don’t Play Anymore…

April 22nd, 2009 · 51 Comments

I have had this post rumbling around my head for about a week and it is just jumping to get out… so here it comes… My opinionated opinions are launching themselves, yet again!

So many people say to me: “Well kids just don’t know how to play anymore?” And they leave it hanging waiting for me to fill in the gap… Of course I can’t! I am not entirely sure what it is they want me to say, except that “Of course kids know how to play! They just need to be left to their own devices and you will see that they know exactly how to play…”

Anyway, the question should rather be “Why don’t children know how to play?” They have more toys, more games, more activities, more child-focused sports, classes of every kind… In fact more professional adult attention in the name of fun than ever before in the history of man… and yet have a look at these little kids: They are like little robots… dropped at their first activity of the day before their parents get to work and getting collected only long after their folks are finished at work… In fact the nature of their days is that they spend more time in “their kids workplace” than the adults in their lives spend at work. Food for thought.

In the quest for kids to get ahead and for them to achieve younger and younger, to find their niche in life… How in the world will they ever be a musician if they only start music at nine? How in the world will they ever achieve that sports scholarship to college in they aren’t on the football team by eight? Whatever happened to long winsome summers doing a whole lot of nothing except playing hide-and-seek and reading comics… certainly not going to get your kids ahead like that. It’s really quite daunting and I am just the mother person, it’s not actually my stress or my future it’s theirs…

So here you go Se7en things that help to stifle play and what works for us:

  1. Mega Toy-stores: There are two types of toy stores in our part of the world, let’s start with the massive… Full of shelves of plastic flimsy stuff that you wouldn’t want to cross your threshold. Once every other year I have a serious mother guilt attack and head for one of these. My kids are missing out on so much, really I need to just have a look at what they are missing out on! So we head out like ducks and venture in… to see mountains and mountains of mindless breakable toys, heaps of mindless characters that I wouldn’t want my children to emulate and I have to wonder “Is there a market for this stuff?” where does it all go at the end of the day when the next shipment arrives and nobody was stupid enough to buy the first shipment. Needless to say we walk the aisles my kids are pretty gobsmacked by the sites before their eyes and much as we would like to buy something to remember the trip by we inevitably find – well nothing! Not for lack of looking, but nothing looks like the best option and away we go for the next looong period of time. Not to much fun there!
    • What works for us: Stay away from the store – what they don’t know about they can’t want. That works for me too! I realize my kids are seriously deprived (hardly) they seldom visit toy stores. The local supermarket, the bookstore and the ice cream spot are our haunts. And the fact that some of their friends have heaps more fabulous things than they do is quickly counterbalanced by some of their friends who have a lot less than they do – The joy of living in a first/third world country is that you learn early on: some people have more and some people have less.
  2. Small Educational-Toy Stores: these are the second type of toy store. Now these are full of the most wonderful looking wooden toys with only felt attachments, that cost more than life and limb… but they are pretty durable, so we suffer the financial hemorrhage in the name of a good toy. My gripe here is not so much the type or quality of toys but the whole educational-ness of it all. We were in one of these the other day on a pre-birthday exploratory trip – only to discover that every thing had an educational twist literally… As each kid explored a toy I was told the wonders of the manipulative dexterity my children would gain from these toys… Hood #7 opened a jar of threading beads – well even the jar was touted as excellent for wrist development… forget about the shiny fun within!!! Hood #4 was intrigued by a magnet set – fuzzy felt for modern kids, I may even have fallen for it, he was loving it so, until I was told that the modern child wouldn’t be able to learn depth perception without it: Tell your child to put the car before the tree, the house behind the wall… needless to say I didn’t get it and he lost an opportunity to make some fun magnetic pictures on the fridge – we should make our own – for sure! The fun was literally whipped out of each toy. I really think when it comes to educational toys and things like lollipop sticks that are touted as math manipulatives… I don’t think so: the only thing being manipulated is the consumer: a lollipop stick is just that and give any kid a pile and they will do something fun with it!
    • What works for us: Stay away from the store – We browse on-line and make a little list of favorites and then dash in and get them before the fun can be manipulated out of them. Apart from that any mother knows the best toy in the world is a pile of mud and freedom to do what you like with it. Or a pile of blankets to make a hide-out… I notice they aren’t selling those in any toy-shops.
  3. Trips to the Library: Used to be a wild explore one evening a week… and sit yourself in a corner and read yourself into oblivion until everyone had picked their books. I think visitors to libraries expect kids to be perfectly behaved “no-excitement please, we are in the library”… they talk loudly to their friends, they drop books, they scruffle through pages, they talk on their phones in hushed tones… but kids may not even exclaim with joy at a new find without a growly look. Anyway trips to the library have now been made FUN, with story time and activities that poor mothers are expected to craft… the father person taught me this: Don’t get sucked in… sit there and read a book the kids will soon get into the activity themselves. Our kids have come home with the most amazing pieces of something… other kids have gone home with perfect hand-made pre-cut adult-stuck daren’t color (we gotta dash) crafted objects… Why do kids need to be entertained in the library for crying out-loud aren’t books entertaining enough. I am glad libraries are making an effort to draw people in but I think they should keep books as the president and not bother with entertaining… not every kid is a non-reader waiting to be dragged into the world of books.
    • What works for us: I take the kids one or two at a time, en masse is definitely frowned upon and I just can’t stand all the glares and stares… the library is actually a complete nightmare, people assume we are stealing half the books (no we have cards like anyone else) – um they take six books for each of their kids but apparently if you have more than two kids well then no you should only have 6 books in total. Some of the librarians are fabulous and actually engage the kids and ask about what they are reading and for them I think we should put a banner on our heads: “We are actually welcome here – kids and all!” Also I make sure that there are no kids activities on when we go, my kids have activities at home I want them to revel in shelves and shelves of books and the smell and the stillness and all the good library stuff!
  4. Activity Classes for Tots: These are touted as “music and movement classes,” just a glance through the local newspaper will leave any mother reeling in guilt – if your child doesn’t attend anyone of the million classes available well they will never have the internal rhythm to write their name let alone a manuscript or heaven help us a best-seller by fifteen. And yes they are kids that write best-sellers at fifteen but chances are that my kids are ordinary and will just live their lives and do whatever comes naturally regardless of rhythm and movement. Heaven help the four year-old, and I have had a few… who just likes to sit on the floor and smash pots and lids and wooden spoons around… If the poor kid shows even the slightest aptitude: nodding to a song in the radio, or whatever they whipped straight into special classes… horrors if your child can’t read music by the time they are five because they will never ever have a musical career… Actually every adult musician I have ever asked (and I do ask just to be a bit cheeky!) “How old were you when you started your instrument?” The youngest of them have all been around nine or ten and most of them even older.
    • What works for us: we listen to all kinds of music together, We sing along/dance along to music together. No it’s not all Bach for babies and other sweet sounds, it really is a smatter of everything, if we like it we play it. We have an array of better than junk instruments to play with… I don’t mind if they can or can’t read music (a skill they can learn later!), I don’t mind if some don’t like opera and others love it… I am giving them a taste of the world – If they want to pursue it then so be it! Otherwise, it’s hard but I have made my kids wait. They may start music when they are about nine. Most of their friends start around five, with a whole lot of diatribes about talent, but by the time my kids start most of their friends have fizzled out of their favorite music activity.
  5. Ball Classes, Dance Classes, Every Kind if classes for Tots: Much as these classes are touted as fun and games but they are really all about performance and it’s not even in disguise… at the end of each term you will get a cute little report card saying your child is average, average, average… maybe exceptional at one or two things and less than exceptional at one or two other things… You can’t help feeling your kid is average or worse after that… Hello we are the parents and we should think our kids are exceptional and if we don’t then someone is stealing our magic… And when it comes to dancing much as kids love it they spend months having extra classes and special practices for the end of year concert and for all these extra hours of schlepping and costume making your child is going to bounce around on the stage for thirty seconds being a bunny, duck or whatever – very edifying!!! If you are into and you love it fine… but these classes are not going to be what makes your child an Olympic ice-skater or National Soccer player… their passions will rise up anyway… They will! And you will be left in the trail as they dash towards their own chosen goals. You can either cheer them on or be upset that they didn’t follow your dream – I for one would rather cheer my kids on.
    • What works for us:
      I consciously try and avoid anything aimed at tots… my first two did ball classes – I tell you what they were just stressful. I had to learn that kids are just as happy to kick a ball around a field. We found a really low key tennis couch that took a couple of them for an hour once a week. I don’t think they learnt a stitch of tennis but they spent an hour once a week learning how to take turns (you would never learn that in a family with se7en siblings!) and play the most wonderful games that we still play to this day… The best thing though was that the tennis court was at the beach (we have a tough life here in Cape Town) and I was forced to get take my tinier tots to the beach for an hour every week – rain or shine and we had the best fun…
  6. Sport: Kids don’t spend their summer playing sports with friends anymore… they go to special training. We spent entire summers playing cricket on an open field. Now you go to special training. When we weren’t playing cricket we were cooling off, chasing each other round a pool, now you have special swimming squad… I don’t know everything is so special but not much fun. My kids did cricket for a while but by age ten you had to have a sports bag bigger than your body filled with equipment and my left-handed kid spent an entire summer in the nets being “taught” how to bowl with his right hand… Even I can see, though I made him go the distance and finish what he had committed to, that it was not a whole lot of fun, rather a weekly dose of humiliation! And even ordinary things like running and the heady feeling of vanquishing the world as you out-strip a friend has gone because for the sake of self-esteem we no longer compete (very real world I know!) against each other… but against the clock… how on earth are you supposed to learn any sportsmanship from that – oh! We aren’t… winning at all cost regardless of our opponents is a far more important life-skill. And yes our kids do look cute in all the gear and all their equipment and yes they appear to enjoy their weekly practise, but the fun stops when it become three nights a week and games and special practise in case you make the next level and if you don’t attend well you can forget about a career in said sport… Who said anything about a career – can’t it just be fun?
    • What works for us: My kids spend hours getting exercise everyday… running and chasing and hide-and-seek… swimming in summer and cycling and skateboarding for hours. So exercise is not the issue. As for sports I try and find alternative, non-traditional stuff for them to pursue… mountain biking, rock climbing, boulder hopping down a river – great excercise, fun and certainly builds athletic little bodies… they have each had at least a term or two playing the most popular sports: cricket, soccer whatever so that when they gather with friends they know the rules and how to play… that’s all they need to know until they show a burning desire to follow a particular sport as a career – How many of us parents are career athletes? Well to be honest my fingers are very athletic!
  7. Mom Groups and Play Dates:

    These are another name for mom’s-coffee group… Usually there is some sort of planned activity for the kids and then “free-play” while the mom’s recover with tea. Nothing leaves me stone cold like a pre-packed craft activity – what is that about. Never say never but I completley never think you will ever see a toilet roll craft on my blog… toilet rolls belong on the toilet and then they go into the recycling bin… they are not rockets, cars or hanging nests – they are toilet rolls – that’s it the end. We have had kids come round for a play date and they look at me and say: “What’s our activity?” and I ask “Well what are you doing?” and if they don’t know well I will say well I was planning to mop the floors while you were playing but if you would like to help me you are welcome… some kids turn in terror at the thought of work (child labor and all that!) but many kids join me they have never had the opportunity to wash dishes or scrub the odd floor, Yay for chores!

    • What works for us: I understand that mom’s get lonely and want some adult company. So get some, moms need it but somehow in the whole world of Supermom’s we can only get it if it is in the name of an educational activity for our kids. No mother’s have needs too and our kids need to learn that they are part of a bigger picture. Not that they won’t have fun while you are having a mom’s morning but not everything needs to be about the kids. Just leave the kids to play: put the play dough out for tots and settle in for a natter and coffee nearby… For older kids just leave them to their own devises and believe it or not they will learn all the social skills that parents desperately want them to learn without any adult intervention. Obviously you get involved when their is an emergency but mostly they will get along just fine. As for crafty stuff… our craft materials are on an accessible dresser… markers, crayons, paints and paper… the recycling is right their if they need boxes or whatever… and many a quiet afternoon has been spent with friends over, absolutely amazed that they are allowed to paint their own thing!!! Who would have thought!!!

I am not saying all classes are bad and all toys are manipulative. I am saying we need to think what our motivation is for all these goodies… Countless children the world over grow up to be exceptional adults even if they never owned an educational toy, even though they never went to a special educational activity. And in our pursuit if giving our kids every advantage we are also stealing away a whole lot of fun and magic from their childhoods. We shouldn’t be amazed at a whole generation who cannot imagine anything – everything has been imagined for them. We shouldn’t be amazed at a whole generation of kids that expect too be entertained every waking minute of their lives, they have been entertained every minute of their lives. We cannot be surprised by a generation of kids that seek bigger and better thrills because they have done everything by the time they are ten and quite frankly they have tried every new experience and they are bored.

I think the best thing we can give our kids is time – free time, time to ponder, time to create and time to wonder. They will do the rest and who knows some of them may even grow up to be exceptional – regardless of their parentage.

Now I will return to my normal crafty posts! I just had to say all that! And if you haven’t entered our GiveAway yet this week then take a look!

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51 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Becky // Apr 22, 2009 at 11:48 am

    Those are excellent thoughts, and so true. Kids learn so much when they’re left to their own devices. Thanks for sharing your ideas.

  • 2 Sandy @ Jesus and Dark Chocolate // Apr 22, 2009 at 12:19 pm

    This fires me up too. And I am at a totally different place in life than you and I still get mad. I am public school teacher, both of my kids are very active in sports teams…..however they still need time to play! I have written about this before

    Plus I am sure there are several other posts I just can’t find them right now, but yes this drives me crazy too!!!

  • 3 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 12:35 pm

    Hay B, Thanks for commenting! I am all for leaving them to their own devises and seeing what they come up with it! Hope you have a great week!

  • 4 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 12:37 pm

    Hi S, nice to meet you, love your posts too!!! Especially the one about your 13 year old boy child – too true! My posts are never short and sweet like yours! I could learn a thing or two!!! Thanks for reading all the way! Have a great week!

  • 5 Lisa // Apr 22, 2009 at 2:47 pm

    I so agree! In our society children are over stimulated and over entertained. At our house we like to keep the toys to a minimum- especially electronic, noisy, and plastic ones. For gifts we tend to give tools or "real" things like cameras or telescopes, etc. or experiences (a concert or play, a camping trip or a tour, etc.). Sending them out the back door to play (in almost any weather, I might add) is the best thing for them. Thanks for bringing up this topic!

  • 6 Beth // Apr 22, 2009 at 3:01 pm

    I am sooo glad that I am not the only one who thinks the same thing! Very well put!

  • 7 Lisa // Apr 22, 2009 at 5:15 pm

    Very informative post! Thank you!

  • 8 jess // Apr 22, 2009 at 5:27 pm

    This is wonderful. Thank you for saying it.

  • 9 Miriam // Apr 22, 2009 at 6:10 pm

    Wonderful post! I can’t tell you how many times I’m told about all of the *wonderful* activities my girls *should* be doing.

    More odd is that I had very few scheduled things as a kid. Brownies as a little kid, assorted music lessons of my own choice and then the literary magazine in high school. Other than that it was free time to pick and choose what to do. When did kids suddenly develop the "need" for all these structured things?

  • 10 Mommie Daze // Apr 22, 2009 at 6:40 pm

    I’m laughing at your library story. You should visit our library. The first time I took my son there when he was around 3 he was talking loudly and being rambunctious. I told him, "Shhh! We’re in a library. You have to be quiet." A librarian nearby gave me a very stern look through her bifocals resting on the end of her nose and in a scolding voice said, "He is fine. This is NOT a shushy library!"

  • 11 Courtney // Apr 22, 2009 at 7:37 pm

    we only have one child right now (her sister was stillborn at 37 weeks but she does have one!) so its hard for her to play but we have always promoted playing on her own and using her imagination and it seems to work, she doesn’t get bored much and can play with just about anything! oh and we totally limit the number of toys in our house, she likes the stuff that wasn’t meant to be toys.

  • 12 Susan // Apr 22, 2009 at 8:11 pm

    This is a wonderful post. Even knowing these things, it’s still easy to sometimes get caught up in the comparison games. Next thing you know, little nagging doubts are sneaking in. Your post was a great refresher for me today. Thank you for writing it.

  • 13 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 8:51 pm

    Hi L, Oh, goodness I am so with you on toys… In fact my kids have always preferred the real thing to a toy!!! So we get the real thing. And the best gifts tend to be a box of crafty supplies and scraps and some glue… long after the birthday is gone mom’s call me and say what a fabulous gift… they would never have thought of that!

  • 14 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 8:53 pm

    Hi B, Glad you liked and took the time to comment! Great minds always think alike!!!

  • 15 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 8:54 pm

    Hi J, I am so glad you stopped by I am just amazed at all the positive comments. Thank-you!!!

  • 16 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 9:00 pm

    Hi M, Glad you liked it… We have a local mag free for moms that is totally packed with classes that would leave any mother reeling in terror let alone guilt!!! There just aren’t enough hours in a day let alone a week to busy these little kiddo’s! Take care and Thanks for stopping by.

  • 17 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 9:04 pm

    Hi M-D, I should actually collect library stories!!! Every time we go there we have some event! Sounds like you have a lovely library – I go through phases of thinking I should make a few suggestions at ours or if I should just despair!!!

  • 18 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 9:15 pm

    Hi C, Thanks for stopping by! I am so sorry about your baby that must have been the hardest thing in the world. Isn’t that the truth about loving things that aren’t meant to be toys! We never needed to buy toys for our first kid! He thrived on tupperware boxes and the adults in his life!

  • 19 Bahama Shores Mama // Apr 22, 2009 at 9:18 pm

    Amen to all SEVEN of your points. I am considered the strict parent by the other mommies…..but the kids all love to be at my house!

  • 20 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 9:23 pm

    Hi S, Aaah mothering guilt is a tricky thing it creeps up on little cat feet! Just an idle comment in passing can send us reeling! And I do get caught up thinking we should be doing this or that but eventually sanity rules and I remember that actually we are all doing just fine thank-you very much!!!

  • 21 se7en // Apr 22, 2009 at 9:32 pm

    Hi B.S.M., People look at me like I am nuts to offer kids chores, but I tell you it is such a novelty to the modern kid that they totally love it! I know it may seem a bit mad but kids like to be treated like real people, generally if I treat them like real people they behave like them too! Thanks for stopping by.

  • 22 mom2fur // Apr 23, 2009 at 12:06 am

    I’m 53 years old and I can’t remember the last time I saw a group of kids playing running bases or kickball in field. Oh, heck, this is Long Island–we don’t have many fields any more. Heaven forbid a group of kids might want to play in one–someone might scratch a toe and sue the owner. No one ever chased us off property when I was a kid. So there’s another reason kids don’t know how to play–they don’t have any place to do it.

    Even before our first (of four kids) was born, my husband and I vowed we wouldn’t be the types to put them in something every day of the week. Each had one activity, plus religion class. They are 18, 22, 24, and 26 now and guess what–the lack of ‘daily stimulation’ hasn’t turned any of them into a sludge.
    The modern child has a good chance of living well past 100. Can’t we let them be children for at least 10 years of that?

  • 23 Jen // Apr 23, 2009 at 1:58 am

    Thanks for the post. We’ve been frustrated with a boy down the street who comes over to our house and takes over my son’s toys. We’ve been teaching our boy that a true friend wants to play with you, not your toys. When we allowed the boy to come over and had them play with a tent rather than a video game we suddenly had two imaginative explorers rather than two space cadets. It’s amazing how creative kids can be when they’re "unplugged". Keep up the great work on your blog, it’s inspiring and encouraging.

  • 24 Laurie Monopoli // Apr 23, 2009 at 2:32 am

    Greetings from The Learning Station in Melbourne, FL USA
    I stumbled upon your blog site and I just had to share. As an educational specialist your perspective on "Reasons Why Children Don’t Play Anymore" is worthy of publishing in a major parenting magazine. You HIT it head on!!! Kudos to you for a brilliant analogy of a message that will benefit parents worldwide.

  • 25 se7en // Apr 23, 2009 at 6:46 am

    Hi mom2fur, I totally love your comment… the over legalising of every one and the madness of “over safety” not in the name of safety but in the name of the law… and as for giving kids 10 years to be children that is just spot on – brilliant!

  • 26 se7en // Apr 23, 2009 at 6:54 am

    Hi J, Neighbors aren’t always neighborly! We resorted to saying our kids rooms were out of bounds with a couple of neighbors simply because life became unbearable with them tearing my kids stuff to pieces while mine were out playing in a tree and at the end of the day they would go home and my kids would have to tidy up… not a great situation! We popped them all out into the fresh air and guess what: everyone was happier for it!

  • 27 se7en // Apr 23, 2009 at 6:56 am

    Hi L, You are too kind! Thank-you! And thank-you for taking the time to comment after you had stumbled upon us!

  • 28 Debbie // Apr 23, 2009 at 8:05 pm

    What a lot of comments!
    I also loved this post and was nodding away madly but I think it is also fair to say that the world was a different place when we were kids. I remember riding my bike all over the place at the age of 10 by myself with not a care in the world. I wouldn’t dream of letting my children do that now. I could go to the park with a friend and no parents had to accompany us, nowadays you can hardly let your kids play alone in your own front garden. For us there was more space to play, more time to play and safety didn’t seem to be an issue.
    But still, we shouldn’t fall into the traps if we can help it. This post was a great reminder of the things that we actually know but forget and get carried away, thanks for bringing us back down!!

  • 29 se7en // Apr 23, 2009 at 9:37 pm

    Hi D, So glad you commented and you are so right when we were kids we were a lot free-er to roam the neighborhood. Also kids who were overcommitted may have had one extra-mural a day and occasionally two. But we know kids in grade one and younger who have at least two if not three and sometimes four (!) things on in one afternoon. These kids have much longer “work days” than their parents. I feel for them there is no time to dream or while away a little time. You have a Good Week!!!

  • 30 Erna // Apr 24, 2009 at 6:13 pm

    I appreciated this post. When my oldest was little we went to one of those library events, we would’ve been satisfied just listening to the book. The crafts were never really done. It didn’t last long.

    We have children that aren’t really "toy people" (but we still have some lying around). However, they do love CARS! They just want to do what we do and on the occasion they don’t, they’re better at finding things to do on their own (at least the older ones). Paper, markers, yarn, and the like are staples around here.

    I was really grateful about your sharing on music lessons. We are considering piano for our oldest but I remember the days I took piano lessons and didn’t last long. Yet, one hears it is better to start earlier. I think we’ll wait to see if it is a burning desire. :0)

    We’ve been lost in some of these trappings but we’re getting wiser with age. ;0) My husband was already pretty wise though. ;0)

    (P.S. I’m bad at coming back to read additional comments. So, if I don’t come back and see your response . . . my apologies in advance. Smile.)

  • 31 // Apr 24, 2009 at 6:15 pm

    In my last comment I said we heard it is better to start younger . . . but I appreciated your insight on this topic of pursuing music. :0)

  • 32 se7en // Apr 24, 2009 at 10:45 pm

    Hi E, Thanks for taking the time to comment… We have found it so true that our kids hang out and do whatever we do… and like to use the real tools rather than play tools! It really helped me to ask adult musicians and dancers how old were they when they started music or dancing, to realize the truth in it as apposed to all the marketing that is thrown at us! It really won’t damage their careers if they wait a little bit and it might help them to grow up and love their instrument or whatever and play them with a passion when they are older… even if it isn’t their chosen career!!! Have a great weekend.

  • 33 Jen // May 1, 2009 at 2:13 pm

    We have strayed away from the toy stores. When I went home to visit my parents and we went to Toys R Us. My kids went crazy and I couldn’t figure it out. Then I relize that we hadn’t been in that store in about a year.
    As for the library, we all enjoy the storytime. Gives me a break from reading all the time and big sister helps. We stopped because my son was like what ever and I got looks with my oldest. We do attend their special stuff and the one librarian is wonderful. They talk about books and interests while they do some time of craft. The crafts are not tossable either. Mydaughter has made beaded bracelets, sewn a small pillow and now a sock doll. It is something I wish I could do with adults. Just get together with my yarn project and chat. No one does that anymore.

  • 34 se7en // May 2, 2009 at 2:00 am

    Hi J, Your library crafts sound a lot better than ours. I love the idea of sitting around with moms doing my own crafty stuff and nattering sounds so wonderful to me! Have a great weekend!!!

  • 35 Lori // May 5, 2009 at 10:02 pm

    i think what works for us is a home-centered life. we don’t enroll in activities for the most part — they seem to be organized by and dominated by adults. i gave up looking for the kind of groups i wanted for my kids and just started organizing them myself or doing without.

    i have dealt with so many children (running a private school) who didn’t have inner resources — they hadn’t developed an imagination because they’d never had a chance to use one, they couldn’t just “play” on their own because they were so used to adults entertaining them, and they didn’t know how to make their own fun.

    it seems to me the biggest thing kids today lack is completely empty, stretching-out-in-front-of-you free time. time that you can fill by yourself doing whatever you want.

  • 36 se7en // May 5, 2009 at 11:02 pm

    Hi Lori, Thanks for commenting. I am all for endless hours of free time, time to dream, time to explore, time to ponder… I loved your “Race to the Finish” post today. Have a great week!!!

  • 37 Heleen Johnson // Nov 15, 2009 at 1:18 pm

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  • 42 Marcia Francois // Feb 17, 2010 at 6:55 pm

    Oh, I SOOOOOOOOOOOOO love this post – here I was thinking my kids were deprived because they’re involved in nothing and hardly have any toys 🙂

  • 43 se7en // Feb 17, 2010 at 11:45 pm

    Hi M, I found babies don’t need toys at all!!! In fact our babe only has toys because he has been gifted and his siblings like to play with them for him!!!! Frankly he couldn’t care less!!! Hope you have a great week!!!

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  • 46 Alison // Sep 9, 2010 at 6:54 am

    Love it! I seriously need more time to scour your blog. What a great post and so true. We started “official” homeschool yesterday and I’m already plagued with the pressures, trying to decompress and focus on what is important and why we are doing this. Love your opinions and mindset, wish more people felt that way.

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