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Sunday Snippet: Feeding the Se7en Thousand…

May 18th, 2010 · 33 Comments

The last couple of Sunday Snippets I have been writing about hospitality, and how it begins at home and I got a really good question about how we actually have countless folk over and what we feed them… Aaah I am all for a practical question!!! And this post provides a very practical answer…

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Just like the story of Elijah and the Widow and the Miraculous Jar of Oil, that you can read about in 1 Kings 17: 1-15, I don’t think we are called to provide banquets or mansions, we are just called to practice hospitality.

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I think when I was first married I liked the idea of hospitality but I didn’t practice it – except for high days and holidays… and because of that I was always stressed out that our house wasn’t clean enough, the food wouldn’t be enough, the house wasn’t big enough and so on. But I think it is important to remember that it doesn’t matter how humble our home is, it is the fact that we are practicing hospitality that counts. So practice we do, we are not perfect at it, our house isn’t spotless – it is neat and clean “enough” and the food is whatever we are eating – fairly simple!!! and the more we practice opening our home the easier it has become.

Here is a the best response to the question “How do you feed extra people?” I have ever read, in an ancient cookbook in a second hand book store, and I didn’t even buy it: if you are having extra folk over for a meal don’t cook more than usual just add an extra side-dish or two. This really works for me!!!

I thought I would show you the different types of hospitality that happen in our home and you can see how we cater without breaking the bank:

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  1. Drop in visitors, usually students far from home or someone we have seen that day and said: “Don’t you want to come over?” If we have one or two extra guests for supper and we do about twice a week, I don’t make more food than we usually eat, but I may get a child to make a flat bread or whip up a garden salad to go with whatever we would have had. So for drop in guests they eat whatever we eat… and if it’s the end of the month and it’s fresh pasta and herbs then that’s what it is!!!
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  3. Folk we have invited with great anticipation usually visitors from overseas or who live out of town or overseas: Long lost friends or folk we have only just met at church or whatever… For this type of visitor I would prepare something I could do most of the work in advance – often they arrive and want a walk on the beach – and I for one don’t want to be left at home making dinner. I would pop in “a something” that can roast and have all the vegi’s, potatoes etc good to go… I will blog my standard roast dinner for you!!!
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  5. More than a handful, a Bible Study or small group: For a medium size crowd I usually serve two meals… two make a huge lasagna or whatever is just too much work for me!!! So I will make Spaghetti and Meatballs and Mini Shell Pasta With A Creamy Smoked Bacon And Pea Sauce. And then fill the meal out with bread and salad. When I budget dinner meals for the month , instead of 30 dinners I budget for thirty four… so one of these extra meals a week is covered.
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  7. Hoards of folk: Having a Bible Study or even half the church (depending on the size of your church!) over for supper can be done!!! For this one don’t think about it, just start!!! I almost always make hamburgers from scratch when we have more than twenty guests coming over – they can be made in advance, and everybody eats them. My kids make endless buns on the day, I can cook onions rings, slice tomatoes, gherkins and lettuce beforehand. I make the burgers a day or two beforehand and freeze them and then cook them as the guests arrive and settle in. Budget wise – a huge meal like that takes an extra packet of bread flour and two or three more packets of mince than our usual. Extra onions, tomatoes and lettuce are not expensive.
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  9. Even Larger Groups: Sometimes we have an open home for missionaries who are in town but they are staying somewhere small, we just make a day that they can use our home and invite whoever they like over: This is usually an afternoon coffee or tea and we bake a couple of things and have bowls of fresh fruit: cherries, grapes, watermelon, whatever is in season and leave it at that…
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  11. A handful of kids: For a couple of kids I usually let them make their own pizza’s. Kids like to be in control of their own food and I find if they make it themselves they are a lot more likely to eat it.
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  13. For a lot of kids: Inviting the whole Sunday School over… I will usually make wraps… there are a lot of bits and pieces to chop and then they can really pick their own. Kids can be fussy, really fussy but the more control they have over a meal the more they can sort themselves out and not go home to their parents starving half to death!!! Also if I make wraps I am there on the side if there is a problem, but mostly just part of the furniture… and I get to hear their amazing conversations!!!

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The things that can make everyday catering and visitors expensive are fancy desserts, we don’t really eat desserts much, I may make a batch of brownies for visitors but not always. And juice, now that can get really pricey, we don’t normally drink it (I would rather my kids got their fruit servings from sugar than a whole lot of expensive added flavorings and sugars). I don’t normally have juice in the house. I just offer crisp cold water with meals – I have never had anyone complain (I lie one child through a complete fit that their was no juice – but I saw it as an opportunity for his parents to do some training and moved on!!!).

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Really the more our house has opened up the more I realize it isn’t about our house being smart enough or the food is good enough. It is about being welcoming and friendly and going the extra mile for folk who are far from home… It is the least we can do to make them feel welcome. And I really want our kids to know that our house is a blessing to be shared and hospitality is part of life. As we practice hospitality as a family hopefully they will learn this is how to live in general not just on extra special occasions.

This Post was hammered out as part of The Thirty Minute Mom’s Challenge at Steady Mom. The photographs were taken from my flickr pool, so didn’t need load up time.

I popped this post onto the Works For Me Wednesday Site – go and have a look there for all sorts of tips on absolutely anything.

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33 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Christine // May 18, 2010 at 12:41 pm

    Okay, I’m just curious what the “father person” does for a career. I have an idea, but I’m never quite certain.

  • 2 se7en // May 18, 2010 at 3:53 pm

    Hi C, Should we have a poll? The father person is a … !!! Seriously, Amongst the myriad of things he is involved in he works in IT… bet you didn’t guess that!!! – how else could I possibly blog without a techie to back me!!!

  • 3 Kathleen@so much to say, so little time // May 18, 2010 at 4:34 pm

    Brownies are the stuff of life. Seriously, if we dug all the way to the core of the earth, I’m convinced we’d find that all the sweetness of life springs from a gigantic batch of brownies far beneath our feet. 🙂

    This is amazing. I always believed we had an open house, but you have far outdone my efforts at hospitality.

  • 4 Carmen // May 19, 2010 at 12:11 am

    I love this post. I do need to be reminded that things do not have to be perfect for guests to feel welcomed and at home.

  • 5 se7en // May 19, 2010 at 12:12 am

    Hi K, You are so right about brownies!!! Seriously you can be forgiven a whole heap of transgressions if you have great brownies to share!!! And as for house sharing, I have no idea how it happened, I may just be there for the ride!!! Hope you have a good week!!!

  • 6 se7en // May 19, 2010 at 12:28 am

    Hi C, I had no idea how many different types of visitors we had or ho many visitors we have until I wrote this – talk about living on the fly!!! Anyway I am so glad you found it helpful… Have a great week!!!

  • 7 jacki // May 19, 2010 at 8:02 am

    I really love this wisdom – it is freeing and will help me be more willing to have people over! Awesome.

  • 8 se7en // May 19, 2010 at 8:44 am

    Hi J, Thanks for stopping by!!! Glad you liked the post – have a fabulous week!!!

  • 9 S // May 19, 2010 at 11:11 am

    I really loved reading this post! You have truly inspired me to ‘practise hospitality’. You seem to do it so effortlessly! Love the recipes.

  • 10 Leigh from 123 blog // May 19, 2010 at 2:49 pm

    You are amazing – I would stress so much about the food – is it enough? will they like it? and on and on

    But you’re right – it’s not about the food, it’s about the serving heart!

    I do think you have a BRILLIANT idea and that’s to build in the hospitality into the budget for the month – that is FABULOUS and at least you know you have the money (1 less excuse)

  • 11 se7en // May 19, 2010 at 4:01 pm

    Hi S, Glad you liked it – I must say it looks a lot easier in a blog post than real life!!! Have a good week!!!

  • 12 se7en // May 19, 2010 at 4:01 pm

    Hi there L, Always nice to hear form you!!! Yes, I discovered early on if you have a a couple of meals popped into the budget it can really relieve quite a bit of anxiety (to say the least!!!). I have found that I the less organized (read control freaky) I am and the more we just live through visitors the more relaxed they and we are… and really I need to keep things relaxed for a good flow through our days. A mother really does set the tone of the home!!! Lots of love to your sweet babes… that seem to be growing and growing in every way!!!

  • 13 Young Wife // May 19, 2010 at 5:45 pm

    Wonderful, practical advice. I had some standard “company” meals that were easy to prepare, but my husband has recently gone gluten free, so I need to rethink our plans.

  • 14 se7en // May 19, 2010 at 6:00 pm

    Hi Young Wife, Nice to meet you. Every now and then when things are going too smoothly we get a bit of a curve ball and have to readjust!!! My hubs is diabetic and we always have to keep this in mind and kids with all sorts of allergies. You are right as a problem arises you have to relearn the basics and start from a new level of basic!!! Hope you have a good week!!!

  • 15 Loki // May 19, 2010 at 10:45 pm

    hi there;) Great post. Yep, there is a huge difference between entertaining people and practicing hospitality (I once heard a speaker say).
    thanks for letting me and mine benefit from your hospitality too.

  • 16 angi // May 19, 2010 at 11:57 pm

    this is a wonderful post filled with ideas thanks for sharing

  • 17 se7en // May 20, 2010 at 12:17 am

    Hay L, Nice to hear from you!!! We would so love to see you all again!!! Hope you have a fabulous weekend!!!

  • 18 se7en // May 20, 2010 at 12:23 am

    Thanks A, Thanks for stopping by! Hope you have a good day!

  • 19 Stina // May 20, 2010 at 10:08 pm

    Loved this! Really. I have a small house and always use that as my excuse. Table only seats four and there are four of us. It’s hard just to have our two ward missionaries over…but I definitely want to try to have more people over. I think we’ll start giving this a shot. 🙂

  • 20 se7en // May 20, 2010 at 11:24 pm

    Hi S, Nice to hear form you!!! Our house isn’t huge but the walls seem to expand when they need to!!! Like most things it is hard to get started but once you do it’s fine, really!!! Give it a try and have a great weekend!!!

  • 21 Susan@improvamama // May 22, 2010 at 6:13 am

    I love your posts about hospitality. Really have got me thinking about how to bring that more into our lives and not just for “special” occasions! Food ideas go a long way to bringing it into reality – thanks!

  • 22 se7en // May 22, 2010 at 5:36 pm

    Hi S, Glad you liked it – I realized after a couple of posts that what people were after was not so much what we did, but how we do it!!! Slow learner here!!! Anyway I don’t seem to have gotten many questions so this must have been the post folks were after!!! I hope you have a great weekend!!!

  • 23 Cheryl // May 28, 2010 at 2:00 pm

    I love your approach to hospitality and the way it enables you to invite people over. The extra side dish or two is so simple, I’m left thinking “why didn’t I think of that”. It smashes down the obstacles I usually build up when thinking about inviting peole over. Thank you for sharing!

  • 24 se7en // May 29, 2010 at 1:39 am

    Hi Cheryl, Great to meet you!!! How many times I have been saved from unexpected guests by popping an extra salad or a flat bread on the table!!! It really does the trick!!! Hope you guys have a fun weekend!!!

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  • 32 Marcia (123 blog) // May 19, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    I see I loved this post then and I love it even more now.

    Have you read the reluctant entertainer? Something in that book stuck after all these years – entertain to your style. And my style for big groups is more of a muffins and tea-type style which helped for years to just do it and get people over 🙂
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  • 33 se7en // May 19, 2014 at 3:21 pm

    Hay Marcia, I am so thrilled that you are enjoying our blog again and stepping back in time – it is so good to get feedback. I haven’t read the Reluctant Entertainer… it is on my ever growing wishlist. Just the title resonated with me!!! Gotta say that I rather like that you have time to stop by and linger… hope you are enjoying a little extra time yourself!!!

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